How Do I Get There From Here?
How do I get there from here? Unlike this bird who simply has to fly to get there, most of us find ways to say it it next to impossible to do. In jest we often say, “you can’t get there from here!” Yet, the jest is more about what we believe than it is about humour. We do limit ourselves.
Each of us has a built-in voice that often tells us we can’t do this or that or the other thing when in truth we can do all of these things and more. What limits us is a narrowed vision of our capabilities in the physical and psychological sense. Rather than face a potential failure, we simply set our “bar” lower. We somehow buy into the idea that if we don’t try something we can’t fail at it. “I really didn’t want to . . . ” is how we rationalize not even trying. It is all about fear.
We also have the collective voice telling us what our limits are, what we can’t and shouldn’t do. We believed the authority of our parents who set our first protective limits and continue to believe that society, like our parents is motivated by concern for us in setting limits. The modern western world has as a foundation belief that humans are essentially incapable of standing upright on their own without the guidance of a church or a government or a corporation or a special interest group. Individuals are weak beings. Left to our own devices we would quickly self destruct.
So why have I switched “tone” in this post? First, I wanted to look, perhaps more objectively about self-defeating behaviours and beliefs so as to put a framework around what I am doing to sabotage my own efforts of becoming a more conscious being. In the process I am seeing that the barriers are imaginal. There may be societal barriers, but even those barriers are constantly shifting and look differently in different cultures. What is not possible or even forbidden in one culture is “normal” in a different culture. Right or wrong then becomes a limiting script for the most part, not an objective statement of reality.
Knowing this, I am forced to look at myself and question myself when I say “I can’t get there from here.”