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Building a Container of Therapeutic Relationship

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The journey to healing begins with a physical journey to a place of safety

For those following my latest version of “journey,” today was my first session in a return to analysis. Of course I will not talk about the content of any analytical session as what happens in any session involves both the analyst and the analysand.  The session happens in a container that I can best describe as being a sacred and safe container – temenos. But I will speak about what I learn from the process and about feelings so that anyone reading this will have some sense of the value as well as the process.

Before I begin, I want to be clear with you as to why I have re-entered analysis. The truth is, what I was doing stopped working for me. I was in analysis almost fifteen years ago following the suicide of one of my brothers, an event that acted as a trigger or catalyst for stuff I had long repressed, bits and pieces of my life I had forgotten about as I went about my life as a husband, father, teacher, and coach. My life back then began to come apart at the seams and I found myself entertaining suicidal thoughts in an attempt to escape the flood of images and memories. Those images and memories revealed a lot of childhood abuse which included an incident of being sexually abused as a teenager, several incidences of physical abuse, and a fair bit of emotional/mental abuse. It seemed like a lot to deal with but after a semester off from teaching, I was able to return to teaching with a decent level of balance.

With the death of my mother last fall, the floodgates opened further revealing significantly more incidences of sexual abuse, from different people beginning somewhere around the age of six or seven. Some of the sexual abuse happened over an extended period of time. Overwhelmed, I decided to return to analysis in order to deal with all the memories that were presenting themselves in a way which would allow me to avoid becoming a victim of the memories. The work of analysis isn’t about erasing the abuse, it is about responding to the knowledge of the abuse in a way that allows one to grow passed the abuse, becoming stronger in the process.

As I engaged in this morning’s analytical session I was surprised by the process. I have counselled as a therapist for a long time and I have been through the process of being counselled, so I shouldn’t have been surprised. Regardless of whether one has been counselled in the past, each time one enters into a new counselling (therapeutic) relationship, some basic work needs to take place, work that is about getting information flowing in both directions. You have to do all the foundational work before heading into the work of analysis (depth psychology). I had already skipped this part in my mind since this was a not a new process as a person being counselled or as counsellor; I was skipping the foundational work assuming that I would be diving head first off the 10 metre diving board as soon as the first session started. When my  analyst then began with the beginning I was surprised, and relieved. My guide knew what he was doing and I began to relax and become more present in the moment.

I want to bring something here that I hope will be of some use – in the days and hours leading up to this first session, I was worried by quite a few things: Would the analyst want to continue working with me? Would I give him the right answers to his questions? Will I become silent and hide my words because of my shame? Will the analyst think less of me because of what he hears? These questions and more tortured me and sleep was hard to come by and never long enough to be actually restful. My body was in revolt and every part of me began to ache. Of course, all of this was in my head and had nothing to do with the reality of being in an analytical session.

As a therapist, it was good for me to re-experience the angst of a person entering into therapy so as remind me of what each of the people who begin their work with me would be experiencing. That knowledge allows the therapist to effectively create the therapeutic container that will keep both the therapist and the client safe. Doing the work of building that container is a joint effort that grows out of the initial dialogues between the analysand and the analyst. And now, looking back at this morning’s session, I see that our beginning work has done just exactly that. And so, I find myself relieved that I have chosen my guide wisely and have good hopes for the analytical journey that has just begun.

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Written by Robert G. Longpré

February 24, 2012 at 12:01 am

8 Responses

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  1. Dear Robert,
    It is so good to read that by others, you entered the therapy with feelings of trust and hope.
    In the trinity of Love, Hope and Faith – Hope is the Anker and such a strong Symbol – it means Life Saving in the world of matter and in the world of the psyche.

    Opa Bear

    February 24, 2012 at 3:11 am

    • Thanks for these words my dear Opa. It is good that I have “willingly” boarded the ship for this journey.

      rgl

      February 24, 2012 at 8:12 am

  2. This all sounds so familiar, Robert. My wife is a psychologist herself, but has seen different people off and on through the years to help her deal with issues from her childhood, similar to the ones you are dealing with. It also sounds like you have a good guide, knowing what he’s doing as he leads you further on your journey.

    Thank you for sharing your journey…you’ve been in my thoughts.

    seekraz

    February 24, 2012 at 1:44 pm

    • Yes, the guide is good, VERY good. I first met him in 1998 at a workshop using fairy tales as part of a group therapy process. Since I knew I was going to return to Canada, it only made sense to go with my earlier associations which had laid a foundation of familiarity and trust. Thanks for caring. 🙂

      rgl

      February 24, 2012 at 3:12 pm

  3. Thank you Robert,

    This is very touching and I look forward to reading more. Maybe we will meet one day.

    Best wishes on another rich adventure of your hero’s journey
    siraj

    Siraj Sirajuddin

    February 26, 2012 at 8:23 am

    • Thank you, Siraj, for connecting with me and choosing to add your words here. I do hope that we will eventually get to meet each other. 🙂

      rgl

      February 26, 2012 at 11:50 am

  4. I’m glad you have a very good healer, Robert…and you are welcome. I need to catch-up on your posts…they look intriguing.

    seekraz

    February 29, 2012 at 10:23 am

    • Yes, I am lucky to have chosen the guide that meets my needs at this time. I look forward to hearing your comments as you catch up. Thanks.

      rgl

      February 29, 2012 at 9:29 pm


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