Thanksgiving Pancakes and Relationship
Soaring through the skies, jets leave a trail marking their passing. We see the trail, even after they have passed. Then, after a period of time, the trail gets swallowed and we no longer see the evidence that would indicate that the jet had once passed this way. Regardless, there was a passing, there was a trail and all has since changed.
I have to remember this. I often moan about the lack of worth of my own life, complaining that what I do doesn’t seem to make much of a difference, if any, in the lives of others around me let alone the world as a whole. Intellectually, it is easy to make statements and quote the Lorenz Effect (or Butterfly Effect); but as far as feelings go, it isn’t so easy to accept, especially when one is feeling down.
This morning I got to see several instances of the Lorenz Effect in operation. It is Sunday morning and I am visiting at the home of my grandchildren in America. Sunday mornings when “grandpa” is visiting, is a time for “Papa’s Pancakes.” I don’t know when this started, but it is in place. All the grandchildren get a turn mixing the ingredients with me so that they are a part of the pancake process. Now pancakes are pancakes, but for all concerned in this process, they become the best pancakes ever. A mythology has grown around these pancakes which have become sacred in their own right. Time has not changed the myth other than in reinforcing that myth.
It really isn’t about pancakes at all; it is about the passing through each other’s lives with engagement. The pancakes disappear just as jet vapour trails disappear. The effect remains. We have interacted and influenced each other’s lives in ways that we don’t even know as that influence has yet to work itself out. Who knows, perhaps my grandchildren will interact with their grandchildren in ways that will be the result of how their grandparent(s) interacted with them. Each act, done or not done, leaves ripples in the lives of those immediately surrounding them, and others who connect both directly and indirectly over time.