Being Deeply Loved and Loving Deeply
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” ~ Lao Tzu
I am one of the lucky ones in this world. I am deeply loved by someone, and that feeling is one that is returned with as much depth as is possible to hold. We are approaching our 42nd wedding anniversary later this month and I am continually amazed that this vibrant young woman that chose me so long ago, still wants to share my life. Why? Perhaps, it is simply that we both see mystery in each other.
“If we have learned the lessons of emptiness, we are ready to move closer to the mysteries, the real substance of the spiritual and religious life. Mystery is not just a great blob of the unknown. Particular mysteries, full of fantasy and meaning, surround us: death, love, illness, sex, aggression, beauty, failure, and desire.” [Moore, p. 25]
As with almost everyone in the world, I need to have meaning in my life. After more than sixty years of life, the search for meaning has led me over and over again back to the idea and reality and mystery of love. No matter how much I change, or she changes, or the world changes, it is love that provides the will to move through each day ready to embrace yet another day. It is about the mystery of who she is and who I am in relation to her, as much as it is about anything else. We live in the world in a strange dance of relationship that tests both of us. We see each other as almost a part of ourselves. We live in the outer world as “one” and in the process I learn to live whole as I take back projections of my inner feminine, my soul.
The depth of love gives me courage, gives us both courage and strength to dare loving more, to dare risking change. Loving deeply isn’t easy. Being loved deeply isn’t easy either. Loving deeply makes life even more complicated if that is possible. Yet, it also simplifies life in teaching us that “all we need is love.”